Friday, May 29, 2009

Life's Not Fair

I tell this to my kids regularly when they experience their "kid-sized" problems; like when Julio sneaks the last cookie before anyone else has a chance at it, or Margarita gets to stay up a little longer to read at night than the boys, or when they don't get to go to a party that they want to attend.

By telling them this, I think I kind of wash my hands of dealing with the feelings they have regarding the situation, and expect them to instantly comprehend and accept that things won't always go how they want them to go.

You haven't heard much about our new maid. The lack of posts regarding her is indicative that all is finally well in the maid department. She is a superb maid, probably the best we've ever had in 8 years. She's mature, responsible, kind, and just a good person and conscientious mom.

Today was her son's 14th birthday.

Tomorrow is the 5th anniversary of her husband's death.

He died, completely unexpectedly, of a heart attack at the age of 35. She was left alone to raise her 9 and 6 year old sons.

This makes me feel horrible. How is it that I have my husband here to support me and our kids while she has to do it on her own? And what if my "luck" were to run out, how would I deal with it?

Life certainly isn't fair, it's true. I think I'm going to be a little bit more understanding the next time my kids don't like that explanation.

Sometimes, I don't like it either.


Ballerina Girl said...

Wow, I didn't know that...
Life can be so tough sometimes...
I also feel so lucky that I wonder why I am ever unhappy, ungrateful or maybe that I am just not thankful enough....


Head Nurse or Patient- you be the judge said...

There never were truer words. Life isn't fair- Earth life that is. Life is hard. Harder for some than others it seems. Makes me all the more grateful for the trials I have instead of others.

Kari said...

I hear you on this one. Just last night at a restaurant I watched a little old couple come in, but he was stooped over with some bone disease, couldn't stand up to look at anyone or shave...would I be the smiling little old lady, taking care of my husband day in and day out...? Life is definitely not fair.

Fabiola said...

Life can be a "bitch"... As I said on my last post, we have to be thankfull for what we have and leave the blessings day by day : )
Ah, I saw a lot of people running in the São Paulo's marathon this morning and I remember all your efforts in your marathon.


Anonymous said...

It's unfortunately true. How wise you are to recognize it and to try to help your kids understand it. We take the hand we are dealt and try to be postitive with the hard things and grateful for the good.